Sunday, April 11, 2010
Focusing on What's New to Let Go of What's Old
My poor dog had lived 17 years under my care and I am certain she was happy to move on. I was sad to see her go. Ever my teacher, she was incredibly patient and loving with everyone she met.
The bike racing was actually way more complicated to let go of. If you have ever gotten into this or any competitive sport, then you know it can be all consuming. It comes with great rewards; you look great, you feel great, you lose two pants sizes and if you are lucky and having a good day, you can actually feed that competitive monster with a podium placing or two. Having spent most of the last 3 years training or racing or worrying about training, racing or what I was eating or not eating, that was a lot of focus and mind share.
Once I decided not to race anymore, I found that even through I had stopped racing, I hadn't really let go in my head. I still checked results online, texted my team mates before and after races, and forced myself to maintain my fitness. Fitness - that's not a bad thing to keep up, but the "not letting go part" really became just one more distraction.
How do we help ourselves surf change with grace and ease? First, know what is changing and make a full commitment to making it happen. Second, and equally important, release the patterning you have been operating within. While your change might be as simple as altering the route you've been driving to work, by consciously taking the time to recognize and focus on the benefits from what will be different for you, you can actually shift more easily.
For example, weekends used to be about driving 2-3 hours each way for a 30-90 minute bike race. That didn't include preparing for, or recovering from, the race itself. Today, Saturday would normally be a race day. I actually slept in and woke up a much nicer person. :-)
But what to do with those newly empty hours?
This week, take a look at your current patterns and see if there is anything you are currently or wanting to let go of. Why not take action on it now? Remember to find something new to focus on, to help pull you forward into the new experience so you can move more effortlessly into that fun and exciting place of adventure, gratitude and connection.